Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now. Friendships/relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. Make time for someone that adores your personality, not someone that complains about it. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
These are signs that you are possibly chasing people that are wrong for you.
- It’s the guy who never answers your texts and only calls you Friday night at 2 am.
- It’s someone who doesn’t further your goals, who keeps you around for the drama and the intensity.
- It’s someone who uses you for company to assuage his or her loneliness.
For many of us, we are still discovering ourselves and have yet to discover what kind of people we truly are. The problem really comes when we do start figuring out who we are and decide we really don’t want to listen to what’s really right for us, because many times, that means accepting ourselves. It means accepting your flaws and your tendencies and coming to terms with the kind of person who is actually going to make you a better person. Maybe you need someone who is quiet because you’re really loud. Maybe you need someone who isn’t going to take all the attention because you secretly like a lot of attention. Maybe you need a guy who isn’t going to dote on you and treat you like a princess because you’re already too spoiled. Accept your worst self and understand what you need to do to become a better person before you are actually able to open your life with someone who understands you (this goes for relationships and friendships!).
Learn from your mistakes and grow from them, even if that means giving up on the man with the Audi who never calls you back or the girl with the big butt who never even bothered learning your name.